Dont Be Jealous - Be Inspired
When we see people do things we cannot do, or have things we don't have, it might be tempting to be a little jealous. But, jealousy doesn't lead to anything except resentment, and that isn't going to help you. Instead of being jealous of others, focus on being inspired. Let the success of others move you forward toward your own success. After all, people who are doing things you want to do or have things you want are examples of what is possible for you. When I see people doing things I want to do, I become inspired. After all, if one person can do it, it can be done. Those people ahead of me are setting a great example of what is possible. I don't get jealous - I get inspired. I look at those who are doing what I want to do as the trailblazers. I am thankful to them because they provide examples and paths to follow. It doesn't mean I have to do exactly what they do, but it gives me clues as to what works. I can still do success my own way, but it sure is great to have examples to reference. Everyone has their own path to walk, so there is no need to be jealous of others. They are simply doing what they were put on earth to do, and as we walk our own path, we can use the examples of successful people as guides to help us achieve what we want. Those who are doing what we want to do are setting great examples for us, so we need to be thankful, not jealous. They have gone before us to blaze a trail, and perhaps make it a little easier to achieve success based on what we can learn from them. Coach Rachelle Disbennett-Lee, PhD, is a Certified Master Coach specializing in working with business owners and professionals in being more profitable and productive while staying sane and balanced. Coach Lee is the publisher of the award winning e-zine, 365 Days of Coaching. Her first book, 365 Days of Coaching ? Because Life Happens Every Day (Universal Publisher, 2004) was named a finalist for Best Book 2004 by Publish.com and has a five star rating on Amazon.com. Visit Coach Lee at her websites http://www.coachlee.com and http://www.365daysofcoaching.com True Direction, Inc. Copyright This article along with byline attached may be freely republished
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