What The Buddha Says About Coaches
There is a Buddhist saying that goes like this: "If you meet
the Buddha on the road, kill it." This means to kill any
concept of the Buddha as something apart from oneself. To kill the Buddha is to BE the Buddha. Any concept we can
have of the Buddha is so much smaller than the reality of
what the Buddha actually is. And therefore any concept we
have of the Buddha is limiting. To experience the reality of the Buddha, we must destroy
that concept in order to be free of the limitations.
Regardless of your spiritual beliefs, this analogy can be
applied to coaches and coaching. "If you meet the Coach on the road, kill it." This means to kill any concept of being a Coach as something
apart from
oneself. To kill the concept of Coach is to BE a coach. To kill the
Coach means to throw away the idea that we can flick a
switch and "Be A Coach" while on the phone with a client,
then hang up, and flick that switch off. This simple philosophy can by used to create multiple
streams of coaching income. By Bringing a coaching-rich
approach to the creation of other streams of income,
destroying our previous notions of that being a coach means
coaching one-on-one, and the result is: - a much greater impact of coaching on the world - a much greater means to earn wealth for coaches If you've been coaching for awhile, ask yourself, do you put
on your role as a Coach like a hat, and take it off after
you hang up the phone with a client? Do you have an ON/OFF switch that you flick, turning your
role as Coach on and off? If yes, what would it be like for you to destroy your role
as a Coach and go beyond? Andrea J. Lee coaches entrepreneurs and online business
owners. As Thomas J. Leonard's General Manager, she helped
build and manage the largest network and trainer of personal
and business coaches in the world. Now the CEO of Andrea
J. Lee Group of Companies, she writes, speaks and consults on
Marketing, Internet and Business systems. This is an excerpt
from the her book - Multiple Streams of Coaching Income,
http://www.msoci.com/msbooklink.html
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